Pay Attention

Pay attention.
Gentlemen, pay attention to your woman.
Once you loose that connection with her, you loose her as a whole.

She will realize that she is not your priority.
Whether it was to talk about her day, some minor thing that made her happy, or even seeing a cute dress in a window.
Once she knows that you don't pay attention, she knows you stopped caring 100%.
Yeah, you might say you care, but when you say it, it means less and less to her.

You might not know all the favors, all the times she listened, or the times where she cared about you with all her heart.
Heck you don't even know she is hurting because you're not paying close attention.

Don't do this men. Your woman will be no more.
She might not leave right away, but she will become distant.
She might isolate herself.
She might text, message, or talk to you less.
She might not message you at all.
She might just stop to have hope that you will talk first.


Now, I'm not an expert, but I am going through things like this.

I made the choice to get with a man that is very independent.
That's very distracted easily.
That's very bored easily.
And mainly, doesn't talk a lot about his day to day life.
Why?
Ask him.



(This was kinda inspired by the song "Art of Letting You Go" by Tori Kelly)

Peace and Love guys

Taking a break, but he won't know....

Are we compatible?

Does he really love me?

Now, I see what people have been saying when I tell them the stories I recall.

I am never sure what happens during his day, so I won't ever get mad, but I have noticed that he gets irritated easily.

I do to, but I let it go easily as well.

Now, what I am about to say is very much true and I never doubt the love in our relationship.
We were talking on the phone and for the past hour I have been listening to him practice making some beats and sound on his DJ app. Now, from what I have been hearing, it was basically him practicing and memorizing the certain buttons to tap.
Then I ask him a simple question, "Can you play what you have been practicing for me? One time through?"
Now, I am not sure where it happened or if I said something in a manner that he has never heard, but on the other side I hear him say, "What?! I have been! That's what I have been doing? What do you think I have been doing?"

That spew of words and his tone brought me back to a horrible, yet memorable moment in my life. My dad had the same tone and repeated words over and over at my mom. "What do you mean? I have been doing that? No!! You're doing it wrong!! That's not how you do it!!"

It was a simple task my mom had asked my dad to do on the computer, and when she tried following his instructions, he said those words. Never lending a steady hand or speaking calm, no, he went straight into frustration.

Where are my parents now? Divorced.
My mother is unhappy and still wanting love.
My dad is unhappy and trying to do a job to keep him afloat in the world.

Me? Well, my story, I am still writing it and trying to change the outcome.

My boyfriend becomes easily annoyed, frustrated, and heated whenever I confuse him. Whenever I make myself unclear. Whenever I ask silly questions. Whenever I ask if he is still listening. Whenever I say or do something, anything....and I am the one who is wrong.

But I try things differently.
I try to speak calm.
I try to diffuse.
I try to tell him that it was nothing important.
Yet, he continues to be frustrated and demands for me to tell him again.

I raised my voice and said, "I don't want you to get mad or upset because of something I said. Let it go. Don't worry about the question. Go on your break and be calm."

I kept saying please over and over in my head.

Thankfully his mom stepped in at the right moment and started talking to him.

This made me wonder, am I the only one he fights with and never lets it go?\

I know he fights with his mom, but he gets over it quickly.
I know he gets in a disagreement with his best friend, but they sort it out.

Never, in our relationship, has he ever let a fight/argument/disagreement/or anything else, go.

And I wonder, What does this mean?
What does it mean for me?
What does it mean for us?
Does he love me so much that he tries to fix it himself, but gets more frustrated?
Does he not love me and maybe thinks that if I see him this way I'll let him go?

There are so many questions and reasons that I won't know the answers to.
That's why I ask them here. They are just something that is put out there and they will never be answered.
I am fine with that, because later in life, I will answer them myself.

In the end, I still love him. I will be at his side and I will never encage him. I will let him grow. No, I will help him grow to become a better person.
I do know him well enough that I know he needs a certain "space" but still have me around.
Meaning, I will be like air or a shadow, but I won't make sound so that he may deflate from his anger and frustration.

We all get frustrated and we all deflate from it. I just know his way very well, because I am at his side.

I will always be at his side, no matter what.

Thank you as always for anyone out there reading this.\

Peace and Love